As I watch my daughter, only months old, working so hard on rolling from her back to her tummy, cooing and stretching, twisting and then stomping her feet on the ground out of frustration, I think to myself.....When she's in her thirties, I will be in my sixties......
Will I still be active enough to keep up with her? I hurt now (other health issues unrelated to age) will this get in the way of her childhood? When she is in her forties, I will be in my seventies, now things get really scary! what if she has kids and they look at me like I'm the Great Grandmother, not just their Grandmother.
But before that, will the other parents mock me or judge me when I take her to school? The younger mothers being more concerned with their image on Instagram or whatever social media platform is the popular choice then, or their favorite flavor from Starbucks was discontinued, while I'm over here worrying about the price of pull-ups and kids clothes.
Now I know that that statement is judgy in itself, I honestly couldn't say what a younger parent's worries are, some will be the same as mine, the price of diapers and pull-ups for example. When is the next child benefit payment coming in, the price of gas, etc, but not their age? As far as they are concerned, everything is as it should be. They had a family at the "right" age, and so the age difference between mom and child is acceptable. Just from people I have met in different situations, I know that my age has been something for people to question and judge. How will I cope when they get older. When will they have to change my diapers?
Well, I have a partner to help with that for starters, but in all honesty, it does worry me deep down. However, I know that at the end of the day, it doesn't matter. She is healthy, we are healthy and together we are strong. We plan to raise our daughter to know that age, while it does matter in a lot of situations, there are somewhere it doesn't. Want to buy alcohol? wait till you're 18. Want to drive? Wait till you're 14. Start a family of your own, doesn't matter as long as you have moved out and can pay your own bills and have a stable, healthy relationship that has lasted for more than 5 minutes.
Yes, I am the older mother, and while it does worry me at times, I'm going to rock it! I WILL be able to keep up with the younger parents and most importantly, I will keep up with my daughter. We will be able to do all the things other parents and children do, and we will be proud of each other (at least, until she becomes a teenager, and is embarrassed to be seen with me)
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